fifth-year-old Zhang Manjuan is a well-known writer, teacher, and parental caregiver, and a mature person entering the second half of her life. She is over fifty years old and no longer travels around and goes abroad to buy souvenirs. Life has changed from addition to reduction. Handmade dishes, raised cats, and repeated old clothes can make her happy. Zhang Manjuan, who is currently in a mature age, also began to prepare for the life of her seniors.
Zhang Manjuan, every time she traveled abroad, she dragged her big suitcases and stuffed all kinds of things that she could use and could not use. After the age of fifty, the suitcase became smaller and smaller, lighter, and as much as possible, it was "zero shopping". As she entered middle age, Zhang Manjuan gradually lost unnecessary life burdens and re-interpreted happiness. In her recent new book "I'm a Man", she tells about her exploration of middle age and her definition of happiness.
"I think there is a great benefit in middle age, that is, I can clearly distinguish what I want and what you really need." After walking most of life, I understand that life is unpredictable, and cherishing ordinary daily life, "happiness" is no longer a materialistic and successful achievement.
As long as you can live well, cook Hong Kong-style soup, oil tofu and chicken, chicken, bak koh teh, or have a feeling that cannot be dissolved with your loved ones and pets, or even just leave in the scorching sun and drink it. It is Zhang Manjuan's little luck. "After middle age, the definition of happiness will become more and more simple."
"When I opened my eyes in the morning and woke up, I might see the sun coming in. The moment I shine on my quilt through the window, I feel very happy because I have a new day." This is Zhang Manjuan, the mature one.
Now, she probably spent about this one day: she got up at 5:50 in the morning, hung up online for her parents at 6:00, had breakfast at 7:00, and then took the cart to the market. After returning home, I first organize the ingredients and then take my father and mother to take medical treatment. After seeing the clinic, she took lunch by herself.
Afternoon, it was Zhang Manjuan's working time, which continued until 4 or 5 o'clock. If you get up at a moment, you will drive to Yangmingshan to soak in soup and have dinner with your partner, "because I am a person who really hopes to catch the moment of happiness."
The night is a wonderful time to chat with your parents, tease two cats, or read quietly.
After middle age, I no longer have to be swayed by the nose. The days are dull and happy, and the key is to "be yourself". Zhang Manjuan said affirmatively: "If you are yourself, you don't have to pursue too many things. If you already possess yourself, you will be very happy."
How is it considered to be yourself? As the saying goes, "Not confused when you are forty", Zhang Manjuan believes that it is not that he really has no doubts about life, but that he "will not ask about what he wants and pursues again." "You will not be driven by the public value of others."
As for "knowing destiny at fifty", it means that middle-aged people should know "what is the meaning of your existence in this world."
Zhang Manjuan took herself as an example, "I am a person with the ability to tell stories, and I am a person who likes children, so what I should do is to tell stories and listen to children."
As I got to know myself more and more, Zhang Manjuan laughed and said, "When should I be myself at this time? Is it difficult to be my 80s?" He deeply appreciates his own life value and is no longer confused in middle age.
Take back the guidance of life: Living for yourself
In fact, Zhang Manjuan believes that 35 to 70 years old is considered middle-aged. This is not only a long journey, but also a good time to recreate life and change. Say goodbye to life you don’t like, let go of unpleasant things, plan the second half of your life seriously, and take back the guidance of life. Do not live for the other, just for yourself.
Middle age is also the perfect time to prepare for the old age. Zhang Manjuan observed that her parents often became so old when they were not ready yet, which was very confusing. Fortunately, "we have the opportunity to take care of our elderly parents, so it's like we've been preaching what we are like."
Zhang Manjuan suggested that middle-aged people can make good use of this time to observe the elderly's lives, and then they will find that when we were young, we often get angry about things we couldn't get. "But when you are old, all you really need is a wheel chair and a sleeping medicine."
So, "How could I not let myself go of freedom when I was middle-aged?" Zhang Manjuan laughed and said that the people she was with were a very wonderful generation. They had a strong sense of responsibility for both Chang and Late. They always thought about others and forgot to do something for themselves.
After the elderly become independent-design their own old age
Learning to live a mature life is also practicing the beautiful old age. Zhang Manjuan recalled that he traveled in Canada a few years ago and saw that local elderly people often traveled together. Everyone was dressed up beautifully, going up the mountains and down the sea, visiting Michelin restaurants, and savoring wine, which was eye-catching..
Zhang Manjuan believes that Western people's belief is that children must be independent after they are over 18 years old. Parents will not build a house for their children, nor will they expect their children to help them recommend chairs. As a result, the old man became independent and began to think about how to arrange his life and how to learn how to be happy.
Only by being able to plan your life after life can you have the ability to be happy; and all of this must start from that moment.
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